Shy or Uncertain?

Have you been afraid to speak your mind? I know shyness and uncertainty have stopped me cold in the past.

Shyness and Uncertainty are NOT a Disease!

I want to assure you that both shyness and uncertainty can be overcome.

For many years, I was afraid to speak up in my close relationships because I did not know how to ask for what I wanted. I was afraid of being rejected. Occasionally, I would erupt like a volcano because I had stuffed all of my disappointment about unmet needs, wants and dreams. I was screaming out for help, but others just heard screaming.

My spouse would be loving and helpful afterwards, for awhile. This was not because he understood, but because he did not want me screaming.  Since I still had not clearly communicated in a way that he understood, the cycle was destined to be repeated again…and again. Can you relate?

How do you Find Your Voice?

The skills needed to articulate your ideas in public are no different than the skills needed to communicate your ideas to a loved one.

You need to get clear about what you want. You need to articulate your needs or desires in a way that the target audience can understand. You need to check that your message was received accurately.

Definition of Insanity: doing what you have always done and expecting a different result!

If your results are not changing, I can assure you, what you are doing is not working.

Solutions

What I have learned is that relationships are about communication. So how do we overcome our communication fears?

Here is what you do, learn the basic rules and practice them until you become a master.

It sounds simple, but there are a lot of ways to mess up your communications. I know because I have done them all. So let me help you skip all the painful mistakes and get the results you seek quicker.  There are times in life when we all must reach out for help.  If you are fed up with struggling, sign up for my free e-book and a get a free initial consult.

If you want a better quality of life now,  contact me for an initial 45 minute consultation.  After that, you can decide whether want to work with me on a sporadic or regular basis or just go forward on your own.  Whatever you choose, I wish you the best and a life filled with love and joy.